When it comes to getting into the water, sometimes you just have to jump in…A few weeks ago I saw a documentary that argued that you could make your own reality. If you build it, it will exist. Why are we sometimes so scared to make our own reality? My therapist used to say that some people actually do not allow themselves to be happy or loved. He was right. Sometimes we do not allow things to happen. Sometimes we are afraid to get wet, afraid to make it happen. But when it does happen, you feel that everything and anything is possible. At least one friend was making it happen. I got a text from Victor who had finally caught up with his daddy. Victor is craving for the affection and attention of a new relationship. It seems as though his daddy has finally made a move. They are going to catch up mid week and he is going to see the daddy’s art collection. An invite to a guy’s place is a good sign….which reminds me I got to see DG’s place on Sunday. His place, like him was impressive.

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Thanks for all your comments and messages regarding the DG. We had a long chat today. I feel good about it. We vowed to start communicating with him directly instead through our blogs. I had an eventful weekend, but a good weekend. I feel very happy at the moment. I have met a truly wonderful guy who I am in the process of getting to know better. I am not thinking about the past or the future..but instead living in the present..day by day. I have stopped asking questions, raising barriers and thinking about it. I am just letting things be, living for today and enjoying it. I am not worried about where it is going, if it is going to last or whether it is for real. My friend Victor says when you love everything becomes quiet. I used to tease him about it. I think he is right. It is quiet. There are no more questions, excuses, insecurities or doubts. Just silence and joy..and happiness. It is nice to write about good and happy things. I may not be the Single Guy for long. The journey has taken a new direction…with maybe a new traveller.

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It seems I am not the only one in uncharted waters. A few of my friends are all sailing on romantic seas. Some of them are at port waiting to sail out. Some of them are trying to find the right boat. And me..I am just sitting back and enjoying the wind! On Saturday night I tried to informally play match maker. I invited a few of my single friends for dinner and drinks. David was recently single and sporting a great tan from a day at the gay beach. Victor was still waiting to hear back on his daddy(his older male crush). Aidan has started seeing someone new he was not sure about. Barry was looking to meet new people and Mark was his regular flirty self. They were all chatting but I do not think any connections were made. There is only so much a match maker can do….

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We had a lovely dinner at a waterfront restaurant…conversation was flowing…this was my first grown up date. Then we took a drive down to Watson’s Bay. More talking…some cuddling and kissing. I had been clear and honest about my lack of interests in guys that juggled. It was the overall perfect non-date. Until the morning after. I read his blog and his version of the night. And there it was…the reality of this imperfect date: living with this ex, a fuckbuddy who has keys to his house and a 37 year old gay man who will always be the Dating Guy. Maybe there weren’t any good guys after all. I was disappointed I am not sure what to do now and hence need your advice. Would you start something with someone who is still juggling relationships from the past and lives with his ex partner?

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Last I had dinner with my friend Tom. It had been ages since we last caught up as Tom had been travelling the last few months for work. Tom and I had actually met at a job interview. He ended up not getting the job which was a good thing but we later marched in the Mardi Gras and displayed our left leaning political beliefs. Tom had been together with his partner for over seven years. Their story was an inspiring one, worthy of a mention in The Good Weekend Magazine’s Two of Us section. They are my inspiration; they had a real relationship not the perfect relationship. His partner L was from Brazil. They had met one magical evening on Valentine’s Day at Carnival in Rio. Tom was teaching English there and L was living there with his family. Tom had been himself a single guy for close to five years and asked the universe for his soul mate. His prayers were answered when he met L. They had a long term relationship as L could not live in the USA and Tom had to return to America for work.

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